October 1, 2023

Hello there,

I’ve began and restarted this text many occasions. Between getting on a flight, being in India with household, and getting the information of the sudden dying of an expensive pal Aysha Griffin.

Rachel, Me and Aysha on the suitable, once we visited her in Santa Fe in 2012

Aysha was a author and entrepreneur who I met in Spain, again in 2007. We related by means of the writing group, hit it off instantly, and have been in contact ever since.

She was a free spirit, at all times residing her life to the fullest, and connecting and guiding individuals on the way in which. She owns the google search time period “inhabit your desires” – for those who Google it, her website is the primary consequence – and she or he embodied the time period.

Aysha Griffin, RIP, February 6, 2023

Ayesha was discovered lifeless in her condominium in Sant Feliu de Guixois, Catalonia on February 6; my birthday. Not lengthy after her personal birthday on January 31. Reason behind dying was a coronary heart assault. I’m guessing she was in her late 50’s.

A couple of yr in the past she interviewed me about my ebook which was all about having the braveness to observe your desires; she was an enormous proponent of it. Now we have been exchanging messages ever since. She was one in all my largest supporters of this text.

The explanation I’m sharing this with you immediately is that it’s a harsh reminder that life is brief and we don’t know which day shall be our final.

“Glad Birthday! You are one yr nearer to dying.”

That is the beginning of an electronic mail I get on my birthday yearly from Ryan Vacation as I subscribe to his Daily Stoic. Not the nicest electronic mail to get up to, however a determined reminder that all of us want.

The Stoics believed that the considered dying ought to at all times be in your thoughts. It ought to provide you with a way of urgency, and enable you remove the inessential out of your life. It ought to decide the way you deal with individuals, and anticipate to be handled. In his ebook, Meditations, Roman emperor and Stoic thinker Marcus Aurelius wrote that “You can depart life proper now. Let that decide what you do and say and suppose.”

As working mums, we’re recognized to pause our ambitions and prioritize every little thing round us however ourselves. “I’ll do it tomorrow; I’ll do it when my son is 5; I’ll do it when I’m prepared.”

The reality is, tomorrow could not come and you’ll by no means be prepared.

“Most of us have two lives. The life we reside, and the unlived life inside us,” writes Steven Pressfield in his ebook the War of Art, a line that hit me like a rock once I heard it (audible).

So my message for you immediately is, if there’s something you might be placing on maintain, press the play button now or chances are you’ll by no means get the prospect to.

With all my love,

Abha x