September 28, 2023

If you’re something like me, you’ve a giant record of stuff you’d love to do. Objectives, aspirations, goals, tasks, hobbies.

And as you grow old and extra conscious that you’ve got restricted time to do every thing, the record grows.

Right here is my present record, divided by class:


  • Begin my very own enterprise

  • Be an expert author

  • Create passive earnings streams

  • Discover distant, work from anyplace alternatives

  • Begin a Youtube channel

  • Do a course in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

  • Improve my technical expertise (search engine optimization, net design, video enhancing, web3, AI, no-code)

  • Yoga Instructor Coaching (300 hours!)


Be a proactive mum:

  • Be a gift father or mother

  • Facilitate my youngsters to be taught as a lot as attainable: faucet dancing, horse using, ballet, swimming, jujitsu, gymnastics, capoeira, soccer, artwork

  • Learn and draw with my youngsters

  • Learn books on being a greater father or mother

Well being:


  • Go tenting with my household

  • Get again into stand-up paddle and wake-boarding

  • Begin enjoying tennis once more

  • Study silk (I nonetheless haven’t let go of my need to be an aerial artist lol)

  • Run a half marathon

  • Return to dancing salsa, tango and modern

  • Journey Asia, Africa and South America

They are saying that as you grow old, your need to do issues wanes. Not fairly true for me. Do you are feeling the identical?

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Clearly, I can not do every thing. Our time is proscribed, the mum fatigue is actual, and making an attempt to do every thing means overwhelm and never doing something correctly.

However how do I select?

“The distinction between profitable folks and actually profitable folks is that basically profitable folks say no to virtually every thing.” – Warren Buffett

There’s a technique (yaay!). It’s Warren Buffett’s 25/5 technique. It’s actually well-known, although fictitious. However nonetheless a technique to work with!

In a nutshell that is it:

  • Step 1. Record your high 25 (or extra!) life objectives, skilled objectives or aspirations – your bucket record mainly. All the things you need to your life that’s vital for you.

  • Step 2. Circle the 5 most vital objectives which might be the closest to your soul. These are your highest priorities to give attention to.

  • Step 3. Cross off the opposite 20 objectives you’ve listed and put them away in a “avoid-at-all-costs” record. Sure, “avoid-at-all-costs” record. I wager you’ve by no means made a kind of earlier than!

Placing apart objectives vital to you can provide you FOMO. Our temper performs a job too. How are we meant to disregard our ‘avoid-at-all-costs’ record when our temper gravitates in direction of one thing on that record?

I assume we’ve got to decide on our high 5 objectives fastidiously. Then take the choice to give attention to solely these and totally decide to them. And begin taking pleasure in the truth that we are literally on monitor to attain a few of our most vital objectives.

Level to ponder: The ‘be a proactive mum’ record is a non-negotiable for me; and that already has 4 issues on it. Does this imply I have to compromise on this record?

I’m unsure. This train is less complicated stated than executed.

My most vital takeaway from this technique is that the 25/5 train is instructing us to select to say no to every thing that doesn’t transfer us in direction of attaining what’s vital to us. It compels us to remove and reduce distractions in order that we will truly obtain one thing, fairly than attempt to obtain one thing.

“Individuals assume focus means saying sure to the stuff you’ve received to give attention to. However that’s not what it means in any respect. It means saying no to the hundred different good concepts that there are. You must decide fastidiously.” – Steve Jobs

I actually have no idea how to do that in the case of all of the issues I wish to be taught and obtain. Consequently, I find yourself having an entire bunch of half-baked tasks occurring always.

I really need this to vary, for which I want a system. I’m going to belief this 25/5 train, and begin with it.

I’ll say although that I’ve change into excellent at saying no to social invites, with no FOMO and full JOMO 🙂 Consequently, I solely spend time with a handful of individuals near me who enrich my life. So significantly better for my time, thoughts and soul.

I can not imagine we’re virtually in Might. I want to maneuver quick on my finalizing my focus record so I can transfer the needle on a few of objectives by the tip of the yr.

What are you going to give attention to for the remainder of the yr? Inform me within the feedback or hit reply! I’d like to know.

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Abha x

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