September 25, 2023
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For this installment of our Week within the Lifetime of a Working Mother sequence, we’re completely satisfied to introduce CorporetteMoms reader Siobhan, who lives in Dallas together with her husband, 4 daughters, and canine, and works as a in-house counsel for a software program growth firm.

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First, Some Fundamentals About This Working Mother…

Identify: Siobhan
Location: Dallas, TX
Job: In-house counsel for a software program growth firm (additionally my weblog The Law Mother; @TheLawMother on social media)
Age: 47
House Scenario: I dwell in a 3,400-square-foot home with my husband (48-year-old Biglaw associate), our 4 daughters (17, 14, 12, and eight), and our golden retriever who considers herself the fifth daughter.
Childcare Scenario: My 8-year-old and 12-year-old attend after-school care at their Catholic elementary faculty. My 17-year-old and 14-year-old attend a Catholic highschool half-hour away, and trip the varsity bus to the elementary faculty. I choose up all 4 women at 4:45 p.m. The highschool buses youngsters to and from Catholic elementary colleges throughout city to make faculty drop-offs and pickups simpler for households with multiple-age youngsters.

How a lot do you pay for childcare?
4 youngsters in non-public faculty plus an extra $300 a month for after-school care

We requested Siobhan about her determination to ship her youngsters to non-public/non secular faculty, and he or she shared this:

My husband and I are each merchandise of Catholic colleges, and credit score Catholic schooling with our success. When it got here time to decide on colleges for our youngsters, the choice was simple.

Our women attend a Ok–8 elementary/center faculty and a 9–12 highschool. Each colleges have excellent lecturers, supportive lecturers and workers, the suitable steadiness between conventional studying and expertise, and neighborhood.

Concerning lecturers particularly, our women’ Ok–8 Catholic faculty prioritizes phonics-based studying instruction and cursive handwriting, like they’ve performed for 60 years. Two of my daughters are severely dyslexic and benefited tremendously from this type of instruction (together with remedy from an authorized educational therapist, additionally supplied freed from cost by their faculty).

Whereas extra a lot reasonably priced than a number of the different non-public colleges in our space, Catholic faculty continues to be a sacrifice. Cash we spend on tuition now means much less cash for the women’ faculty and our retirement. However it the long term, we expect it’s price it.

We additionally requested Siobhan whether or not she will get a whole lot of feedback as a mother of 4 women (together with annoying ones), and he or she had this to say:

On a regular basis. At all times begins with, “4 women, your poor husband.” And it goes downhill from there. “Going to attempt for the boy?” “Do all of them have the identical dad?” “Begin saving for all these weddings.” “I hope your canine’s a boy.” Often, I’ll come throughout somebody who tries to be intelligent by making a reference to well-known sister quartets just like the March sisters of Little Ladies or the Ingalls sisters of the Little Home sequence.

I get it. Individuals are inclined to say the very first thing that pops into their heads, and 4 women is uncommon. Although, not that standard. Two of my good buddies even have 4 daughters. I simply want the questions weren’t so gendered and adverse, particularly when my daughters are in earshot.

Solutions for the file. My husband hit the jackpot with 4 daughters. I don’t talk about my intercourse life with random folks in (fill in title of retailer). Sure, one man can produce that many women. Overlook weddings, we’re saving for school, med faculty, legislation faculty, and so forth. Canine is a woman (after all). Would you need to be in comparison with Amy March (or Mary Ingalls)? I didn’t suppose so.

How is the work-life steadiness in your business normally? What are widespread methods of juggling tasks that you simply see your colleagues and coworkers doing?
As in-house counsel, I’ve a significantly better work-life steadiness than legal professionals usually do. I’m anticipated to be aware of calls and emails throughout regular working hours (9 to five, Monday to Friday), however I can schedule calls and Zoom conferences round faculty drop-offs and pickups.

I hardly ever get calls after hours or on the weekends. My job is absolutely distant, and I do business from home. My husband, then again, is a Biglaw associate. He works lengthy hours with some journey. He’s additionally the managing associate of his workplace, so he has administrative duties on prime of his authorized follow.

How do you deal with family chores, corresponding to laundry, grocery buying, housecleaning, and so forth.? Who does what, and when — and the way usually?
I’ve a housekeeper who comes twice per week to wash and do laundry. My husband does the grocery buying on the weekend, and we divide cooking duties (he’s a greater prepare dinner than me). I do the morning chores (make beds, load/unload the dishwasher), and my husband does the night chores (load/unload the dishwasher, take out trash). I additionally do laundry all through the week and deal with the entire “child administration” duties (e.g., garments buying, faculty paperwork, homework, and so forth.).

Siobhan added, “I returned to work full time this 12 months after seven years of being a stay-at-home mother with a really small non-public follow. I began out my profession in Biglaw (M & A and Securities, 80-hour weeks), transitioned to a small agency after I had my first daughter, after which stayed dwelling after I had my fourth daughter.

“I used to be nervous leaping beginning my profession after a seven-year break, nevertheless it has gone rather well. I work for an amazing firm and genuinely like my coworkers, although I’ve but to satisfy any of them in particular person as we’re all working remotely. I additionally get pleasure from being in-house versus a legislation agency. Issues I did proper whereas ‘leaning out’ from my profession? I saved my license energetic, did the odd venture right here and there, and saved up with my skilled contacts (or at the very least those I used to be buddies with). It saved me within the lawyer mindset.”

A Week in My Life


8:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. Sunday morning chores (laundry, get the women’ uniforms prepared for the week, make my weekly schedule). Make breakfast for the women. Learn the Sunday morning paper.
12:00–12:30 p.m. Stay Peloton run with my favourite teacher.
12:30–2:30 p.m. Brunch with the women.
2:30–6:30 p.m. Husband works with our oldest lady on her faculty purposes. I do the grocery buying, take the opposite women to a party, and write a weblog submit.
6:30–7:30 p.m. Cook dinner and eat dinner with the women.
7:30–8:30 p.m. Watch TV with the women and assist them prepare for the week (talk about schedules, upcoming homework deadlines).
8:30–9:30 p.m. Oversee women’ night routine.
In mattress round 10:00 p.m. and skim for half-hour.


6:30–8:15 a.m. I get the women up and prepared for college. My husband leaves with the 2 older women at 7:00 a.m. to drop them off at the highschool bus cease. It’s 10 minutes from our home, after which a 25-minute bus trip to high school. I go away at 7:30 a.m. to drop the 2 youthful women at college 20 minutes away.
8:15–8:30 a.m. Arrive dwelling and verify work e-mail. I work 100% remotely.
8:30–9:00 a.m. 30-minute run on my Peloton Tread.
9:00–9:30 a.m. Bathe and dress for the day.
9:30–10:00 a.m. Overview and reply to work emails and make my to-do listing for the day.
10:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. Work.
12:00–12:30 p.m. Lunch and stroll the canine.
12:30–4:00 p.m. Work, together with a few Zoom conferences.
4:00–5:00 p.m. Decide up all 4 women on the youthful two women’ elementary faculty. The older two women’ highschool buses them to the elementary faculty.
5:00–7:00 p.m. End up work duties for the day, together with updating to-do listing and recording my time. I additionally oversee homework and spend time with the women.
7:00–8:30 p.m. Husband arrives dwelling and we prepare dinner and eat dinner and hang around with the women.
8:30–10:00 p.m. Oversee the women’ night routine. Assist with homework, chat with the youngsters, showers, and bedtime. Husband does the dinner dishes and a 30-minute Peloton Journey.
In mattress round 10:00 p.m. and skim for half-hour.

We requested Siobhan how she bought right into a every day studying behavior — and whether or not she had some books to suggest!

For so long as I can keep in mind, I’ve at all times carried a e-book with me wherever I am going. As I child, I’d take a look at library books 10 at a time and cram them into my faculty backpack. As a shy, introverted child, books gave me an escape. Every time I wanted a couple of minutes on my own to recharge, I’d pull out a e-book. Belief me, nobody ever bothers a child studying a e-book.

As an grownup, I at all times carry my Kindle e-reader with me in my purse. Regardless of how busy you might be, there are at all times going to be spare minutes when you’ll be able to squeeze studying in. A look ahead to a health care provider appointment that finally ends up being further lengthy. Carpool line at college. Child’s sports activities follow working late. I’m a heavy consumer of the Libby app, which lets you obtain e-books onto your Kindle.

As for e-book suggestions, I’ve learn the Outlander books extra occasions than I care to confess. My youngest daughter’s title is Claire, for my fellow Outlander followers. I’m additionally huge into books about residing a extra productive and inventive life. Two of my favorites are Cal Newport’s Deep Work, and Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear.


6:30–8:15 a.m. Identical as Monday morning schedule, besides my husband has an early morning flight (down-and-back day journey to Houston) so I’ve to do each morning drop-offs.
8:15–11:00 a.m. Arrive dwelling and start work. Zoom assembly at 10:00 a.m.
11:00–11:20 a.m. Squeeze in a fast 20-minute run on the Peloton Tread.
11:30–12:30 p.m. Work.
12:30–1:30 p.m. Lunch, stroll canine, and bathe/dress for the day.
1:30–4:00 p.m. Work.
4:00–5:00 p.m. Faculty pickup.
5:00–6:30 p.m. Eat dinner with the women, end up work duties, and assist with homework.
6:30–9:00 p.m. Advisory Board assembly on the youthful two women’ elementary faculty. I’m on the board. It’s the Catholic parochial faculty equal of a faculty board.
9:00–10:00 p.m. Oversee women’ night routine. Husband has arrives dwelling and works out.
In mattress round 11:00 p.m. and skim for half-hour.


6:30 a.m.–12:00 p.m. Repeat of Monday morning schedule.
12:00–1:00 p.m. Attend Digital CLE whereas consuming lunch.
1:00–4:00 PM Work, together with Zoom conferences.
4:00–5:00 p.m. Faculty pickup.
5:30–7:00 p.m. Dance class for youngest lady. I carry my laptop computer and work.
7:30–10:00 p.m. Husband dwelling. Dinner. Oversee women’ night routine, together with ensuring homework was performed. On-line buying with the 2 oldest women for Homecoming attire.
In mattress round 10:30 p.m. and skim for half-hour.


6:30–8:15 a.m. Identical as Monday schedule.
8:15 a.m.–12:00 p.m. Arrive dwelling and start work. Zoom assembly at 11:00 a.m.
12:00–1:00 p.m. Squeeze in a 20-minute run on the Peloton Tread, lunch, and bathe/dress for the day.
1:00–4:00 p.m. Work, together with two Zoom conferences.
4:00–5:00 p.m. Faculty pickup. Oldest daughter stayed after faculty for an exercise, so husband will choose her up from highschool on his method dwelling.
5:00–6:30 p.m. End up work duties whereas oversee homework. Husband arrives dwelling with oldest daughter and takeout.
6:30–7:00 p.m. Dinner.
7:00–8:30 p.m. Assist with homework, watch TV with the women, calm down.
8:30–10:00 p.m. Oversee women’ night routine and prepare for the morning.
In mattress round 10:30 p.m. and skim for half-hour.


6:30 a.m.–5:00 p.m. Identical as Monday schedule.
5:00–6:30 p.m. End up work duties for the week (together with time entries) and make Monday to-do listing.
6:30–9:00 p.m. Cook dinner dinner, dinner, film evening with the women.
9:00–10:00 p.m. Oversee the women’ night routine whereas husband cleans the kitchen and works out.
In mattress round 11:00 p.m. and skim for half-hour.


8:00 a.m.–11:00 a.m. Morning at dwelling hanging out with the women. Do my lengthy weekend run (60 minutes) on the Peloton Tread.
12:00–6:00 p.m. Whirlwind of driving 4 youngsters to totally different actions.
6:00–7:00 p.m. Dinner.
7:00–10:00 p.m. Husband drives oldest daughter to buddy’s home; spend time with different different women.
10:00–10:30 p.m. Oversee women’ night routine.
11:00 p.m. Husband leaves to choose up oldest daughter from buddy’s home.
In mattress round midnight and skim for half-hour.

Thanks a lot to Siobhan for sharing a little bit of her life as a working mother! Readers, what’s your greatest takeaway from her week of labor as an in-house counsel in addition to her normal work/life steadiness?

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